you know, every time i see something like this or a blog like this, i start to wonder: am i really that different?*
or maybe gender roles are just that fked up, arbitrary, and nonsensical.
or, alternately, maturity is the true rarity.
either way, the "usual" crap/handling doesn't work on me, and hasn't since i was a teenager.
i am unmarried and childless because i was raised to make very thoughtful choices around those matters--if i chose to take that route in life at all. neither is or was central to womanhood in my family.
i have never had a problem attracting or "keeping" men, and even though i identify as a womanist/feminist, i have nothing against mothering/childbirth, as i've written about here a few times.
in my experience, needing to be right is generally a male affliction.
sure, i can get hormonal, but i KNOW when i am and will tell you (my moods don't swing anything like they used to anyway).
i do not covet, enjoy, like or entertain drama. i watch it on tv.
black men--or men in general, for that matter--are not my enemy and i do not treat them as such.
i know my shit, i've worked on a lot of it, and i'm willing to keep working on it if/when necessary. i expect the same of my partners.
so i really don't know what to tell you. either there are a lot of children out there masquerading as grown folk, or y'all know some really interesting people.
*for the record, i rather enjoy very smart brothas. i am NOT a fan of tubman--whether he's serious or not. he's a defcon 1 level tkon associate, obviously