4.15.2009

feeling my fire

i really am not one to entertain a whole lot of bullshit.

part of it is the truth-telling that comes with my pre-moon mood mix, but i am also in the process of burning what doesn't work so that i can clear a path to what will work.

one thing i was reminded of recently: you should never make someone responsible for your fantasy of them.

meaning, if you have this preconceived image or notion of someone, you need to either (a) dispel said notions before you enter into a deeper acquaintance with the person or (b) keep your notions, but be fully prepared for disappointment in case the reality is far different.

no (self actualized) person is going to be responsible for some personality they didn't create.

life is not a romantic comedy. do not make assumptions, and when people tell you who they are, believe them.

5 comments:

Curious Curandera said...

Just searching the blogs and found yours. It’s very interesting.

nehanda said...

mh, i absolutely agree..folks are always telling us about themselves. we are just to ( fill in the blanks ) to listen.

sincerly,
mbuya nehanda

ms. bliss honeycomb said...

@curandera - thanks for stopping by.

@nehanda - indeed. i really don't enjoy shutting folks down, but damn.

absolutelyflawed said...

I think you've given the best advice w/in this entry... I have to definitely agree w/ this "(a) dispel said notions before you enter into a deeper acquaintance with the person or (b) keep your notions, but be fully prepared for disappointment in case the reality is far different."

ms. bliss honeycomb said...

thanks.

having experienced this, i also don't get people who enjoy playing this game and indulging that sort of fantasy. but...to each his/her own. i don't have time.