this is one of those things i thought about speaking on, but felt like it was being bandied about in so many ways in so many places, why bother?
but, lemme sum it up so it's outta my head.
your state issues your marriage license, not any church.
no license (from the state), and you're not married. plain & simple.
according to the 14th amendment of the u.s. constitution, everyone in the u.s. has equal protection under the law. this had to be added because of the (ahem) problem posed by having a bunch of free black folk around after the civil war.
therefore, if we truly have separation of church and state, as noted by another one of those pesky constitutional amendments--the first one, in fact--the issue of "gay" marriage isn't an issue at all.
any two consenting adults--whatever that means in your state--should be allowed to enter into a state-recognized contract of marriage if they so choose.
end of story.
whether or not your religious/spiritual institution will perform the ceremony that joins you in the eyes of the god of your understanding is for them to decide, and very few people are arguing that.
but to the judge and the irs, it ought to all be the same.
i don't see the problem.*
thank you and good night.
*of course, i didn't even start in on all the moral/social/spiritual stuff. i decided to keep it short & sweet. in any case, i think the only way to stop this mess dead in its tracks is to remind people that we do, in fact, HAVE a constitution. that seems to have gotten lost in the sauce about 5-7 yrs ago. that document IS the law of the land, and unless and until that's changed--let's hope we haven't gone that insane--we're essentially fiddling while rome's burning. angry at gay marriage when you can't buy food or keep a house? get the fk outta here...