tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post2226254135086413106..comments2023-07-10T06:58:29.388-04:00Comments on fire | water: that's liberation, and, baby, i want it... (c) goodie mobomihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12999467500417449611noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-20920593991909945102008-03-16T22:50:00.000-04:002008-03-16T22:50:00.000-04:00it's all good...if this sheds some light on your s...it's all good...<BR/><BR/>if this sheds some light on your situation, i'm grateful. that's part of the reason i share thoughts/feelings here in the first place. <BR/><BR/>the light's been shed on mine. <BR/><BR/>there's patience, and there's knowing when something's over and it's time to move on. <BR/><BR/>and, of course, the whole story isn't (and won't be) played out on this blog. there were omihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12999467500417449611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-68043198719865811172008-03-16T12:44:00.000-04:002008-03-16T12:44:00.000-04:00I don't even know if I can even follow you on this...I don't even know if I can even follow you on this one, but only because I took time to find a teeny bit of patience that was left in me, even with how mad I was. But to go from saying maybe to being friends to saying it's not essential is a flip flop and makes me think you may have a small bit of hope or just a level of being mad that won't die in you. Hey, I don't know you from Adam so I can't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-40375788079129849762008-03-12T21:50:00.000-04:002008-03-12T21:50:00.000-04:00when i wrote this i was, in part, reacting to an e...when i wrote this i was, in part, reacting to an email he sent. i didn't think i sounded that venomous, but yes, i let my anger speak in that moment. <BR/><BR/>i simply refuse to have the same conversation with him AGAIN. he'll have to work that through someplace else. i made it clear long ago that i was not his therapist. <BR/><BR/>and yes, i love him. <BR/><BR/>what our "relationship" really creatrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09315118915908189763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-61238818817571615562008-03-12T17:51:00.000-04:002008-03-12T17:51:00.000-04:00Yeah you aint sayin nothin I don't know about. Tod...Yeah you aint sayin nothin I don't know about. Todd (my ex/buddy/i dunno) is still a nerve plucker. He saw the blog and said "sound like both of them was dead wrong". He gonna side with a guy because as high as his IQ supposed to be, he swore I was speaking italian while I spoke plain english.<BR/><BR/>But I looked back and I did kind of expect him to get things on a level I knew he didn't go Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-49402600366477990812008-03-12T17:25:00.000-04:002008-03-12T17:25:00.000-04:00hi pat...i'm glad you finally said hello! no need ...hi pat...i'm glad you finally said hello! no need to be shy on this thing...*smile*. <BR/><BR/>i feel what you're saying. my rage isn't all-encompassing; it comes in fits and starts, but i recognize its presence. overall, though, i'm really more apathetic. when i ranted and raved at him, i knew i still cared. now, i don't even feel like explaining the simplest things. <BR/><BR/>one thing icreatrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09315118915908189763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-13253909062359866272008-03-12T14:05:00.000-04:002008-03-12T14:05:00.000-04:00I agree with the sister above you. I've been readi...I agree with the sister above you. I've been reading this blog a while on and off and I am usually too shy to comment. But today, this hit me because my ex and I have recently patched things up over a long period of bitterness and my own anger.<BR/><BR/>But while I agree with the sister, what I always remembered my mother telling me through my sobs and tears was that you forgive yourself Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-2873540844577408452008-03-12T11:18:00.000-04:002008-03-12T11:18:00.000-04:00LOL. WORD.i'm feelin you on all that...please beli...LOL. WORD.<BR/><BR/>i'm feelin you on <B>all</B> that...please believe that i've written the unsent letters, done the "delayed reaction" cuss outs and all of that. <BR/><BR/>in truth, i can see now that process you described is what healed my relationship with my soulmate and allowed me to come back around to being loving and intimate and sweet with him. i was able to go above and beyond all omihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12999467500417449611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8884955.post-19082461653869974672008-03-12T10:26:00.000-04:002008-03-12T10:26:00.000-04:00go ahead and FEEL your rage...don't worry about be...go ahead and FEEL your rage...don't worry about being mindful about ANY of his good qualities<BR/><BR/>for me that was the quickest and easiest way through...i know that this is more than a notion when you're a "nice girl" a "reasonable, well-behaved woman, who was raised right" etc. etc. etc.<BR/><BR/>the thing is...when you let yourself go through YOUR process...the rage and the disappointment oyinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12649450415068687895noreply@blogger.com